1️⃣ Make invisible tasks visible. 2️⃣ No one “helps” — we each own full categories. 3️⃣ “Check the calendar” is my favorite phrase. 4️⃣ Rest gets scheduled like dentist appointments. 5️⃣ Talk logistics before resentment. 6️⃣ Divide by responsibility area, not random tasks. 7️⃣ Use automation over reminders. 8️⃣ Hold people accountable with systems, not emotions. 9️⃣ Weekly check-ins > surprise blowups. 🔟 Stop trying to remember everything — get it out of your head. The mental load isn’t just ab